"Black people have always been critical of the irresponsible. But these things were usually discussed behind closed doors. Now, because of the news media, everything is out in the open."
And yet, there is something vaguely contemptuous about the president's style of criticism when addressing black audiences. Invariably, his rosy rhetoric comes with insensitive scolding - his mesmerizing visage leaving them oblivious to the blood he has drawn.
"We've got no time for excuses," Obama said at Morehouse, adding, "Nobody is going to give you anything that you haven't earned."
If Obama thinks that is an appropriate commencement message, why doesn't he ever say such things to white graduates? When he gives commencement addresses at the Naval and Air Force academies this month, will he tell them to stop raping those female recruits?
Last year, President Obama spoke to graduates at Barnard College in New York. His words to the young women were laudatory, almost fawning, and unconditionally supportive.
"Fight for your seat at the table," he said. "Better yet, fight for a seat at the head of the table.
"And if you're willing to do your part now, if you're willing to reach up and close that gap between what America is and what America should be, I want you to know that I will be right there with you."
In his address to black graduates at Hampton University in 2010, however, Obama took a different tack. He cautioned them against being so obsessed with themselves that they lose sight of their "separate responsibility" to serve and sacrifice.
"And now it falls to you, the Class of 2010, to write the next great chapter in America's story, to meet the tests of your own time, to take up the ongoing work of fulfilling our founding promise," Obama said.
But, unlike at Barnard, he wouldn't be "right there" with them.
"I'm looking forward to watching," Obama told the Hampton grads.
And no doubt criticizing, too.
Milloy is a columnist for The Washington Post.