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People don't have effective coping skills

Many people draw conclusions while their emotions are at a high. Others try to find a quick fix to problems at hand.

As I look at society and society leaders I have come to the conclusion they have drifted to the far end of the spectrum - far from where the problem started.

Guns, suicide, alcohol abuse, drug abuse and violence are how someone tries to escape dealing with the stress or the problem. Once someone reaches this point, using these methods of dealing with the problem, they are at the point of giving up.

The reason leaders are driving themselves crazy trying to find solutions to people's problems is because we are trying to remove how people react to the problem rather than how to help them cope using healthy problem-solving skills.

If we can educate people on how to cope with any problem, they will not turn to violence or unhealthy alternatives. In psychology, coping is "constantly changing cognitive and behavioral efforts to manage specific external and/or internal demands that are appraised as taxing" or "exceeding the resources of the person."

Coping is expending conscious effort to solve personal and interpersonal problems, and seeking to master, minimize or tolerate stress or conflict. We need to spend money and time educating people to cope with problems before they pick up a gun, bottle or needle.

If they can find a way to cope and overcome their problems, a stronger character is developed. This character then can help others and produce a stronger society.

I leave you with this definition: Compassion: A sympathetic awareness of another in distress bound with a desire to alleviate it.

Danny Arbogast II



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