But I'm not alone in watching my words.
Whole reams have been writing on parenting adult offspring.
Restraint is an elusive virtue required to avoid too much unwelcome advice or too many nosy questions, state Elizabeth Fishel, a writer on family issues, and Jeffrey Jensen Arneet, a research professor in psychology.
"After years of hands-on parenting, you may bristle at how often you must bite your tongue as your children make both smart and foolish decisions," they wrote in an AARP article on parenting adult children.
My tongue at times has almost bled. Especially by phone when we don't have visual clues to evaluate responses. (Some folks connect with Skype, but with dial-up Internet and no cell coverage here, that's not even an option for us.)
But then again, my daughter in her recent blogs has referred quite positively to my comments in phone conversations. I felt like cheering.
That hold-your-tongue ruling holds with grandchildren, as well. Not always easy. Like my parents, I still have a tendency to believe there's my way and there's the wrong way.
No one in the family loads our dishwasher. They expect, with reason, that I'll rearrange for maximum load as well as cleaning.
So it requires self-restraint for me to refrain from disapproving comments, or even facial expressions when something violates my prejudices.
My parents had more of a problem in withholding corrections, and their relationships with grandchildren suffered.
Family issues writer Allison Cooper seems to have summed it up well.
"Parenting can often seem like a tightrope act. While it might get a little easier with time, the job is far from over after the kids have flown the coop," she wrote.
Contact writer Evadna Bartlett at eva...@dailymail.com